So, the other day my parents got really pissed off at me for listening to my iPod during dinner when we were out. I was just about to put it away but i had to unlock it, press pause, lock it again and wrap my earphones around my iPod. My parents thought that i was still playing with it after they told me to stop [which is like, the worst thing you could do] so they started giving me this lecture really loudly in the restaurant. Before i had the chance to explain myself they just complained about my flaws, compared me to other children, suggested things i could do to make me a better person etc, the things that asian parents would ramble on about. It sounds all good when i write it but at the time it was pretty scary and pretty discouraging.
Because i'm not allowed to defend myself cos it'll be "bok zou" (talking back) they assume that i'm admitting i'm wrong. I guess it's better if i shutup and ignore what they say because i would end up less dead at the end. If i defended myself and contradicted what they were saying, they would kill me back home and say how disrespectful i am and how i've "become bad" == I swear they are so paranoid i'm going to turn into a massive rebel and form a mafia.. little do they know what i REALLY am hehehhe
Anyway that's just my personal situation. I was wondering if you've been in the same situation where parents always accuse you of doing things and then they start giving you a whole list of what you did wrong in your life and how bad you are. While doing all that, you are not allowed to explain yourself or say anything in your defense.
I've always thought that parents were supposed to encourage their children, not tell them how crap they are. Dude i know i'm stuffed up but i'm not as stuffed up as they make me out to be. Parents expect too much of their children. Yeah sure they've probably had a hard day at work and they come back expecting you to be out of their way doing homework or chores while they complain about how you're not helping the family or some shit. But have they ever thought about how their children come home from 6-7 hours of school and probably extra hours of co-curricular activities and feel shit as well?
Obviously my parents don't realise that school is hard. Teenagers go through so much crap but they have no one to complain to except their friends, which is alright because they have the same problem. If i ever tell my parents something like "oh yeah im finding maths hard and i dont understand anything" they'll just be like "OMG YOU NEVER DO YOUR HOMEWORK, you won't let me get you a maths tutor, you are so stupid why cant you try harder at school, why can't you be like your smart friends" blah blah. Wheres the encouragement and understanding? No where. I wish someone would just say to me "aww that's okay, i feel llike that too" THATS WHY I LOVE FRIENDS.
I remember last year when i was showing my mum my report, she looked at my maths and french and was like OMG O___O WTF. Okay i get that i suck and i already get enough pressure by my teacher and the pressure i put on myself, but dude i don't need more. So she starts rambling on about how crap my score was etc. STOP. She was reading the report for 10mins and not once has she mentioned anything POSITIVE about my OTHER subjects results which i found quite pleasing.
